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Diaspora returns for Comoros’ lavish ‘Grand Mariage’, a rite of passage that unites generations and communities
Franco Comoran Faid Kassim (centre), 42, who lives with his wife Faizat Aboubacar in Reunion, walks under an umbrella surrounded by family members in Moroni on July 20, 2025 while heading to his bride's family house during the Grand Mariage ceremony. The Grand Mariage, called Dola n'kou in Comorian, corresponds to a rite of passage from one generational group to the next: as in most Bantu societies, Comorian society is organised according to age groups and various merits or rituals performed. The Grand Mariage is the last of these rites of passage. — AFP pic

MORONI (Comoros), Aug 7 — It is wedding season in the Comoros, when the diaspora return to the tiny Indian Ocean islands for days-long celebrations that mark an essential rite of passage, the “Grand Mariage”.

The elaborate, tradition-infused ceremonies — which can be held years after an initial religious wedding — are most often held in July and August, coinciding with the summer holidays in France which has a significant community of Comoran migrants.

On a recent day in July, Badjanani Square in central Moroni — the capital of the mainly Muslim nation off East Africa — was packed with hundreds of people attending a prayer ceremony ahead of the “Grand Mariage” (French for “Big Wedding”) of a couple based in the central French city of Le Mans.

The groom, 55-year-old Issa Mze Ali Ahmed, made his entrance in style, dressed in a turban and robes lined with golden cloth.

Issa Mze Ali Ahmed (centre), a Franco Comorian who travelled back to Comoros to celebrate the Grand Mariage swings his stick as he joins the traditional Dinahou dance on the central Badjanani square in Moroni on July 19, 2025 during the Madjiliss ceremony. Madjiliss is a traditional ceremony in which religious chanting and rhythmic dancing introduce the groom during the Grand Marriage celebrations. — AFP pic

Accompanied by men from his extended family, he took his seat for the prayers among rows of men, many wearing the traditionally embroidered mharuma scarf denoting their distinguished status.

The dowry intended for Ahmed’s bride was officially announced and he was saluted by ululating women resplendent in glitzy headscarves and dresses.

Elsewhere on the Grande Comore, the largest of the nation’s three islands, it was the big day for a couple based on the French territory of Reunion about 1,600 kilometres further east into the Indian Ocean.

In a family home in the town of Tsidje in the hills just outside Moroni, men helped the groom, 42-year-old Faid Kassime, put on a handmade black velvet coat embroidered with gold threads.

Accompanied by an entourage of family and friends and with an umbrella held over him, Kassime walked to the family home of his wife — whom he first married in 2012 — in a procession preceded by drummers and displaying cases of gold ornaments and jewellery as dowry.

“It’s an accomplishment,” Kassime told AFP. “I really wanted to carry out this ceremony to honour traditions, parents and the in-laws.”

Amadi Maria (4th left), the mother of Franco Comoran Faid Kassim (3rd left), who lives with his wife Faizat Aboubacar (2nd left) in Reunion, stands next to the couple as friends and relatives drop banknotes in a suitcase while dancing during the Ukumbi, a women only reception marking the end of the Grand Mariage celebrations, at the Foyer des Femmes (a local venue dedicated to women only gathering) in Moroni, on July 20, 2025 during the evening reception of the couple's Grand Mariage. Gold and other gifts are brought by the groom to the bride as a dote in an elaborate ceremony in which the whole extended families and members of the community take part. — AFP pic

Staggering sums 

It can often take a couple several years after their first wedding, called the “Petit Mariage”, to accumulate the money required to host the second, more lavish event.

But, as costly as it is, the ceremony is valued for sealing the social status of a couple in the hierarchy of their community, said anthropologist Damir Ben Ali.

“It marks the end of a period of social apprenticeship,” Ali said. “It means that a person has followed all the rules that allow him to have some responsibility in the community... for making decisions concerning the community.”

A “Grand Mariage” can cost a couple their entire life savings, said Ali, who found in research in 2009 that the financial outlay then ranged between €6,000 and €235,000 (RM29,603 and RM1.1 million).

“It has surely increased since then,” he said.

The spending is staggering for a nation where 45 per cent of the population of under 900,000 people lives below the poverty line of around €100 a month, according to the National Statistics Institute. Remissions from the diaspora account for 30 per cent of the national GDP.

The sumptuous attire worn by couples at the ceremonies reflect the outfits worn by sultans before the Comoros became a French protectorate in the 19th century, said Sultan Chouzour, author of the 1994 book, The Power of Honour.

“The ceremony is akin to enthroning a new king,” he said. “Here, everyone can be a sultan.”

Franco Comoran Faid Kassim (centre left), who lives with his wife Faizat Aboubacar (centre right) in Reunion, dance during the Ukumbi, a women only reception marking the end of the Grand Mariage celebrations, at the Foyer des Femmes (a local venue dedicated to women only gathering) in Moroni, on July 20, 2025 during the evening reception of the couple's Grand Mariage. This very expensive custom is often the goal of a lifetime and attracts scores of members of the Comorian diaspora who travel back to the archipelago to honour the tradition. — AFP pic

New status 

Kassime’s procession to the home of his 41-year-old bride, Faizat Aboubacar, illustrated the Comoros’s matrilineal system and its practice of matrilocality in which husbands move into the communities of their wives.

Aboubacar was overjoyed after her special day. “I am surrounded by my loved ones and that is all that matters. It is a beautiful moment,” she said.

The event announces to society that a woman’s social status has improved, said Farahate Mahamoud, one of the guests.

“She will be treated as a dignitary wherever she goes. At all ceremonies, she will have the right to speak,” Mahamoud said.

Aboubacar’s mother-in-law was proud that the couple had returned to the Comoros to uphold one of its pillar traditions.

“A continuation of our customs is a great joy — especially for children who were born in France, raised in France, educated in France or working in France to accept doing what we, as parents and grandparents, did,” said Maria Amadi. — AFP

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